As children, we dreamed about doing wonderous things in life.
As adults, when we hear children share their dreams, we often laugh and discount them. Why? Because we lost our sense of awe and wonder and have resolved ourselves to how life is. We scarcely think about what could be since we fear regret.
We can live a life without regrets when we focus on the sacrifices of others and when we learn to live as our authentic selves.
Honoring The Sacrifices Of Others
The film, “Saving Private Ryan,” the vivid carnage of war was so realistic, veterans from World War II could barely watch it. The movie’s portrayal of war helped other generations understand why veterans were silent about their WWII experience.
It also vividly shows the strain placed on a man trying to live a life without regrets and honoring the sacrifices of others.
The ending scene of the movie is decades removed from the war and shows Private Ryan returning to honor his fallen brothers in arms.
As the above clip showed, the elder James Ryan stands in the cemetery and talks to Captain Miller’s marker.
My family is with me today. They wanted to come with me. To be honest with you, I wasn’t sure how I’d feel coming back here. Every day I think about what you said to me that day on the bridge. And I’ve tried to live my life the best I could. I hope that was enough. I hope that at least in your eyes, I’ve earned what all of you have done for me.
For those that have not scene the movie, the clip to the right shows the sacrifice made on the bridge and the last words Captain Miller said to Private Ryan.
Those words would haunt and inspire Ryan for the decades to come.
“Every day I think about what you said to me that day on the bridge. And I’ve tried to live my life the best I could.”
Ryan did his best to honor the second chance he received and to “earn it.”
How Do We Honor Others?
There is One that died for all of us to save us from our sins and His name is Jesus. There is nothing we can do to “earn it” as Ephesians 2:8 tells us “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.”
We can’t earn our salvation, but we can honor Jesus’ sacrifice by asking and honestly answering the question “Do we honor God by being the best we can be?” Ephesians 2:10 tells us “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”
Additionally, we can ask ourselves if we are honoring the sacrifices that others have made in our lives so that we could get an education or have opportunities they never had?
Or do we waste our talents and what others have sacrificed to provide for us by living an average life?
Living Without Regrets
There is a quote that is often attributed to Mark Twain that read “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Are we living that kind of life or are we living small?
Are we taking chances?
We may regret saying or doing something, I know I have those kinds of regrets. But I don’t want to have the regret of “what if.”
The first boss I had out of college was fond of saying “If ‘if and buts’ were candies and nuts, oh the party we’d have.”
Don’t live with “what ifs.”
The following quote by Marianne Williamson is scary and uplifting at the same time.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
DO NOT LIVE SMALL!
Roughly half of your waking life is spent working.
If you are in a job that keeps you from being all you can be, start looking for a new one. If you can’t find a new one, create one.
You have skills and abilities in a combination no one else has because included in that mix are your personality and history.
By the end of 2020, my goal is to help 100 people begin or continue to live the self-employed lifestyle.
If you have ever thought that you had an idea for a business or are tired of working for someone else and don’t want to regret 30+ years of working at something that doesn’t feed your soul, consider joining me at TribeX2020.
Do yourself and the world a favor, live your true self.